Being happy starts with you, NOT a relationship ♥

I don’t know what it is with this day and age but everyone seems to think that being in a relationship will make you happier.

ERM NO! NO NO NO NO NO!!!

Guys this isn’t the case, if you’re unhappy within yourself being in a relationship isn’t going to make it better, BELIEVE ME!

Happiness comes from within, this is a feeling you should feel within yourself not from what other people give you.

Happiness: is a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Happy mental states may also reflect judgements by a person about their overall well-being.

THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOU NEED A MAN OR WOMAN FOR THIS TO BE ACCEPTABLE.

The challenge is that we often get lost or turned around on our path. We end up seeking many things believing they will bring us to that emotional state we desire. We may get the things, but not the feeling we want. We become disappointed as people turn out not to be who we thought. Relationships can become the source of emotional drama, insecurity and heartbreak.

When you take time to evaluate the direction and priorities it may be wise to consider how your thoughts and beliefs affect your happiness.

Many of us learned to believe early in life that other people determine our happiness.This is the first false belief we create about our relationships. The truth is that you make yourself happy. You probably just don’t know how anymore. In the midst of life experience we lose track of how we become unhappy and who is responsible.

SO… my point is your already unhappy within a certain aspect of your life yet you wanna incorporate someone else into your fucked up unhappy self? Why so selfish? BUT I bet the first thing you say when the first cracks begin to show is ‘ this relationship doesn’t make me happy, its making me miserable.’ (Could use the perfect emoji for this right now but on my computer.) But you know what one I mean right ?

This is why I always say self improvement is key.

  • Stop emotional reactions.
  • Change core beliefs.
  • Quiet the criticising voice in your head.
  • Develop communication and respect in yourself before a RELATIONSHIP.
  • Create love and happiness in your life.

If we are afraid of being alone we modify our behaviour to gain attention from a person in order to get their love. We also change our behaviour in ways to avoid rejection or even judgement from other people. We may have been doing these modifications for so long that they have become a “normal” part of our personality and are difficult to see.

Surely I don’t have to tell you how to be happy?

If I do then just take this advice, Do what you want to do, find things that excite you, focus on your health, health & happiness really do work as a partnership & detox negative feelings you suffocate yourself with.

The problem also within this day an age also, Men choose, Women settle!
Nothing infuriates me more than an unhappy ‘comfortable’ woman. Can anyone tell me the world population? 7.4 billion?

THERE IS NO REASON FOR YOU TO BE IN A UNHAPPY MEDIOCRE RELATIONSHIP!

Life’s too short, be happy 🙂

Enjoy,

LotsOfLoveLottie x

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