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Empowering Women ❤️

I haven’t blogged in a hot sec! 

Hope everyone is well. 
I have been thinking for a few days now about what I’d like to do and what path I’d like to go down. 

I’ve always wanted to volunteer helping others or run a small group. 
So today I thought to myself of all the things that are really important to me & then it clicked !! Empowering young women. 

I want to run small group workshops within secondary schools within London. Encouraging young girls why they should follow their dreams & the importance of self image & confindence. 

Because who needs it more than a teenage girl? 

I feel it’s important that young girls get to express their feelings and know how to handle situations without feeling alone or being judged. 

Please let me know what you think. 
Enjoy, 
Lots of love Lottie x 

The ULTIMATE Workout ♥

So over the last month I’d felt really sluggish within myself & had to really push myself into training which isn’t normally the case.

Last Saturday I got the trainer pep talk ‘ Your not training hard enough, you can do better than this whats the matter with you.’

With that I felt instantly upset because I knew what he was saying wasn’t BULLSHIT! I’d been feeling that way myself.

Come Monday  I was questioning my ability to train and saying to myself ‘ can I do this anymore, whats the point?’

I had the talk to myself and just tell myself ‘ Lots, you’re a boss, you train like a boss when you’re on form & you always never give yourself enough credit for what you do. BOSS UP.’

So come yesterdays session it was GAME ON!

Here is what I done… (Feel free to try.)

3 sets of 15 – Jumping squats

3 sets of 15- Upright rows

3 sets of 15- Triceps dips

5 sprints with 15 clean and press in between each sprint

3 sets of 15 -Crunches

3 sets of 15- Leg raisers

3 sets of 15 – Burpees

10 sprints

 

Don’t seem like a lot when you write it down but it feels like Satan burning my soul with a hot rod every single minute.

 

But it will be worth it, chose to be 1% each day and you’ll achieve everything you want & more.

 

HAPPY FRIYAY ENJOY,

 

LotOfLoveLottie x

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Travel bucket list ♥

Places I need too see before I am 30.

I am not one for backpacking around and seeing the world if I am being totally honest with you, Simply because one backpack simply won’t be enough plus I’m all for luxury.

  1. Dubai (For anyone that knows me, knows this is my dream destination.)
  2. Bora Bora
  3. Seychelles
  4. New York
  5. Philippines
  6. Toronto
  7. Marrakesh
  8. Budapest
  9. Hong Kong
  10. Fiji
  11. Mexico
  12. Lapland
  13. San Francisco
  14. Hawaii
  15. L.A
  16. Las Vegas
  17. Miami
  18. Rio
  19. Sir Lanka
  20. Amalfi Coast
  21. Goa
  22. Bali
  23. Jamaica
  24. California
  25. Cuba
  26. French Alps
  27. Monaco
  28. St.Tropez
  29. Maldives
  30. Bahamas

 

These are my top 30 to do before I am 30 !

 

Either by myself or with friends/partner.

 

If anyone has any amazing places they’ve been and would like to share, please comment.

 

 

Enjoy,

 

LotsOfLoveLottie x

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BOOKS ♥

So, I’ve currently just finished reading Khloe Kardashian – Strong looks better naked.

Needing a new read.

Here are the following I have lined up…

Good night stories for rebel girls- Elena Favilli

Embraced by the light: What happens when you die- Betty J. Eadie

We were on a break- Lindsey Kelk (FAV AUTHOR!)

Black water- Louise Doughty

Milk & honey- Rupi Kaur

Girl code: Unlocking the secrets- Cara Alwill Leyba

How to be the bawse: A guide to conquering life- Lilly Singh

Why men love bitches: From doormat to dream girl- Sherry Argov

Never Chase Men Again: 38 Dating Secrets To Get The Guy, Keep Him Interested, And Prevent Dead-End Relationships- Bruce Bryans

Hard girls- Martina Cole

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships- John Gray

If anyone has any recommendations please comment it would be appreciated.

Enjoy,

LotsOfLoveLottiex

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Mental STRENGTH ♥

“When the going gets tough, the tough get going” is one way to say it. Or, as one sports psychologist put it, mental toughness is “the ability to consistently perform toward the upper range of your talent and skill regardless of competitive circumstances.”

So this week I’ve been beating myself up big time about not losing anything on the scales & questioned why why why why why ? I trained my arse off last week literally ! & I didn’t lose a thing. WHINING like a little bitch. ‘ I GIVE UP!’

Of course I had to give myself the pep talk…

I started with, ‘ You’re a bad ass bitch regardless to the number on that scale!’

This lifestyle is more than just a number, Its built my confidence, its made me more spiritual & a happier person all round.

So why give that little voice in your head or the number on them scales the satisfaction?

YES I get it its disheartening when you feel you’ve done really well and you haven’t lost but you haven’t gained either. Maintaining is the hard part so that in itself should of been something to focus on.

Our brains are programmed are wired for bad news, 9 people could tell me I look good, I’m happy. But if the tenth person says I look tired I would fixate to that comment, one negative remark can ruin your whole day. I have found that the most critical element in developing a strong mind is figuring out how to stay positive.

Until I got on them scales I felt fantastic the best I’d felt for ages but because the number, it changed my entire way of thinking for a whole day, (Until the pep talk of course.) Being a Debbie downer won’t change it so take the bull by the horns and continue, fight on! ‘Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.’

To be mentally strong you need too..

  1. Don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself.
  2. Don’t give away your power.
  3. Don’t shy away from change.
  4. Don’t waste your energy on things you cannot control.
  5. Don’t worry about pleasing everyone.
  6. Don’t fear taking risks.
  7. Don’t dwell on the past.
  8. Don’t make the same mistake over and over.
  9. Don’t resent anyone else’s success.
  10. Don’t give up after the first attempt.
  11. Don’t fear alone time.
  12. Don’t feel the world owes you anything.
  13. DON’T EXPECT IMMEDIATE RESULTS.

 

We all need mental strength in every aspect of our lives weather it be a training aspect, eating or relationship.

You can’t become committed or consistent with a weak mind. How many workouts have you missed because your mind, not your body, told you you were tired? How many reps have you missed out on because your mind said, “Nine reps is enough. Don’t worry about the tenth.” Probably thousands for most people, including myself. And 99% are due to weakness of the mind, not the body.

KEEP GOING!

Enjoy,

LotsOfLoveLottie x

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New Music ♥

So we all need to update our music every so often for the gym & our routines, so here are a few of mine that I’ve recently added to the playlist along with some old favs.

No more sad songs – Little Mix Ft. Machine Gun Kelly

Caio Adios – Anne-Marie

Regrets in your tears- Nicki Minaj

Changed it – Nicki Minaj Ft. Lil Wayne

No Frauds – Nicki Minaj Ft. Drake & Lil Wayne

Remember me – Jennifer Hudson

Falling- Alesso

Be the one- Dua Lipa

Say you love me- Jessie Ware

Dive- Ed Sheeran

New man- Ed Sheeran

CRZY- Kehlani

I Don’t- Mariah Carey Ft. YG

Nobody else but you- Trey Songz

Playboy- Trey Songz

No Mediocre- T.I Ft. Iggy Azalea

If you ever want to be in love- James Bay

Coming out strong – Future Ft. The Weeknd

I Thank U – Future

Don’t cry for me- Stormzy Ft. Raleigh Ritchie

Enjoy,

LotsOfLoveLottie x

Being happy starts with you, NOT a relationship ♥

I don’t know what it is with this day and age but everyone seems to think that being in a relationship will make you happier.

ERM NO! NO NO NO NO NO!!!

Guys this isn’t the case, if you’re unhappy within yourself being in a relationship isn’t going to make it better, BELIEVE ME!

Happiness comes from within, this is a feeling you should feel within yourself not from what other people give you.

Happiness: is a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Happy mental states may also reflect judgements by a person about their overall well-being.

THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOU NEED A MAN OR WOMAN FOR THIS TO BE ACCEPTABLE.

The challenge is that we often get lost or turned around on our path. We end up seeking many things believing they will bring us to that emotional state we desire. We may get the things, but not the feeling we want. We become disappointed as people turn out not to be who we thought. Relationships can become the source of emotional drama, insecurity and heartbreak.

When you take time to evaluate the direction and priorities it may be wise to consider how your thoughts and beliefs affect your happiness.

Many of us learned to believe early in life that other people determine our happiness.This is the first false belief we create about our relationships. The truth is that you make yourself happy. You probably just don’t know how anymore. In the midst of life experience we lose track of how we become unhappy and who is responsible.

SO… my point is your already unhappy within a certain aspect of your life yet you wanna incorporate someone else into your fucked up unhappy self? Why so selfish? BUT I bet the first thing you say when the first cracks begin to show is ‘ this relationship doesn’t make me happy, its making me miserable.’ (Could use the perfect emoji for this right now but on my computer.) But you know what one I mean right ?

This is why I always say self improvement is key.

  • Stop emotional reactions.
  • Change core beliefs.
  • Quiet the criticising voice in your head.
  • Develop communication and respect in yourself before a RELATIONSHIP.
  • Create love and happiness in your life.

If we are afraid of being alone we modify our behaviour to gain attention from a person in order to get their love. We also change our behaviour in ways to avoid rejection or even judgement from other people. We may have been doing these modifications for so long that they have become a “normal” part of our personality and are difficult to see.

Surely I don’t have to tell you how to be happy?

If I do then just take this advice, Do what you want to do, find things that excite you, focus on your health, health & happiness really do work as a partnership & detox negative feelings you suffocate yourself with.

The problem also within this day an age also, Men choose, Women settle!
Nothing infuriates me more than an unhappy ‘comfortable’ woman. Can anyone tell me the world population? 7.4 billion?

THERE IS NO REASON FOR YOU TO BE IN A UNHAPPY MEDIOCRE RELATIONSHIP!

Life’s too short, be happy 🙂

Enjoy,

LotsOfLoveLottie x

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Unfulfillment ♥

This week has been a struggle & I don’t say that lightly.

I’ve questioned everything within life this week and this is something I used to do a lot of but not so much anymore until this week.

And it got me thinking as to why?

Does anyone ever feel like they’re constantly lacking something and don’t know why or what it is ? ME TOO!

I’m young (23) I have so much life ahead of me but I always think things never move fast enough. ( if I want it I want it now!) perks of being an only child!

I always suggest things to do with friends and always try to make time for my loved ones. But recently I just feel like no one has any get up and go ( NO offence guys.)

‘ An idle mind, is the devils playground. ‘  there is no truer saying especially when it comes too me.

I always have to be doing something, I can’t lay around in bed all day and watch the world go by even if it is the weekend and its time to relax, NO I work 6 days a week and I train 4/5 times a week also and yet I still have the time and energy to want to do things !

24 HOURS IN A DAY ! I only require 6/7 Hours sleep, I work 9 hour days & Train for 1 Hour correct me if I am wrong but that’s only 16 hours ? What can you possibly do in that other 8 hours ? A LOT!!

Life is for living and I feel some people forget that, I did for a long time. I didn’t ever wanna do very much I was content with routine. Don’t get me wrong I still have routine and I love the routine I am in but I do like to infuse other things into daily life.

I feel like I must contribute in a big way to something bigger than me, Its like I must always have something in the pipeline to strive for that is in the direction of my purpose. I have always felt that my life has a purpose of some sort. I talk to people about their purpose and I hear may different ideas on purpose. I envy the people with fairly simple life purposes that are living it every day, only because maybe it would make my life easier, but who wants an easy life ? When you really think about it what is an easy life ? I doubt anyone can say my life is really easy.

Everyone is scared of change and the unknown, but with that you have to sacrifice. This is where you need to just adapt the attitude of ‘ FUCK IT ‘ if you want to experience something just go and do it, there isn’t always going to someone there 24/7 to hold your hand so put on your big girl pants and go and do what you want to do. YES encourage people to do it with you if you feel its something they’d be interested in but if they decline don’t stress it, do it alone.

Any unfulfillment you have within your life should motivate you. How I’ve had to think about it this week is: balance any feelings of unfulfillment with appreciation and gratitude,  see what you have already done, and consider what you have already accomplished.

 

Enjoy,

 

LotsOfLoveLottie x

 

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International Women’s DAY ♥

What is International Women’s day?

International Women’s Day is a worldwide event that celebrates women’s achievements – from the political to the social – while calling for gender equality. It has been observed since the early 1900s and is now recognised each year on March 8. International Women’s Day is celebrated in many countries around the world. It is a day when women are recognised for their achievements without regard to divisions, whether national, ethnic, linguistic, cultural, economic or political. International Women’s Day first emerged from the activities of labour movements at the turn of the twentieth century in North America and across Europe.

How did it start? 

Its can be traced to 1908, when 15,000 women marched through New York City demanding voting rights, better pay and shorter working hours. Since those early years, International Women’s Day has assumed a new global dimension for women in developed and developing countries alike. The growing international women’s movement, which has been strengthened by four global United Nations women’s conferences.

So lets start with naming a few of the greatest.

Lotfia ElNadi: Was an Egyptian aviator. She was the first African woman as well as the first Arab woman to earn a pilot’s license.

Ida B. Wells:  Was an African-American journalist, newspaper editor, suffragist, sociologist, feminist and an early leader in the Civil Rights Movement.

Ada Lovelace: Was an English mathematician and writer, known for her work on Charles Babbage’s proposed mechanical general-purpose computer, the Analytical Engine.

Sally Ride: Sally Ride was an American physicist and astronaut. Born in Los Angeles, she joined NASA in 1978 and became the first American woman in space in 1983.

Lina Bo Bardi: Was an Italian-born Brazilian modernist architect. A prolific architect and designer.

Cecilia Grierson: Was an Argentine physician, reformer, and prominent Freethinker. She had the added distinction of being the first woman to receive a Medical Degree in Argentina.

Frida Kahlo: Was a Mexican painter known for her self-portraits. Kahlo’s life began and ended in Mexico City, in her home, which is known as “La Casa Azul.”

Miriam Makeba: Was a South African singer, actor, UN goodwill ambassador, and civil rights activist.

Olga Skorokhodova: Was a Soviet Union scientist, therapist, teacher and writer. She lost her vision and hearing at age five due to meningitis, and worked in the Institute for the Handicapped.

Halet Çambel: Was a Turkish archaeologist and Olympic fencer. She was the first Muslim woman to compete in the Olympic Games.

Lee Tai-young: Was Korea’s first female lawyer and first female judge. She was also the founder of the country’s first legal aide centre.

Rukmini Devi Arundale: Was an Indian theosophist, dancer and choreographer of the Indian classical dance form of Bharatanatyam, and an activist for animal rights and welfare.

Suzanne Lenglen: Was a French tennis player who won 31 Championship titles between 1914 and 1926. She dominated women’s tennis from 1914 until 1926 when she turned professional.

All these women I have named above should inspire us all to want to make change & to be apart of something much greater. Some how I feel not enough people know what women have done for the world.

 

Are Men & Women equal ?

‘ I think women are foolish to pretend they are equal to men, they’re far superior and always have been. Whatever you give a woman, she will make it greater. If you give her sperm. She’ll give you a baby, If you give her a house, She’ll give you a home. If you give her groceries, She’ll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, She’ll give you her heart. She will always multiple & enlarge anything that is given.’

So why are Women looked at differently too Men?

For centuries, the differences between men and women were socially defined and distorted through a lens of sexism in which men assumed superiority over women and maintained it through domination.HELL NO!! this is the 21 century now things change & will continue to change with GIRL POWER!

Feminist! 

The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.

I AM 100% A FEMINIST! ‘ WHO RUNS THE WORLD? GIRLS!’ Queen B said that herself! She knows.

I hope all you Women are proud of who you are and what you’ve achieved and continue to always prove why we all deserve the right too; vote, to hold public office, to work, to earn an equal wage, to own a property, to receive an education,  to enter contracts, to have equal rights within marriage & to have maternity leave.

 

Enjoy,

 

LotsOfLoveLottie x

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Anxiety ♥

How would I describe anxiety ? A PAIN IN THE ASS!

Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe. Everyone has feelings of anxiety at some point in their life, some more so than others.

Although anxiety is normal throughout everyday life it occurs in everyone’s life but when do we know the difference from it being a mental health problem?

Because anxiety is a normal human experience, it’s sometimes hard to know when it’s becoming a problem for you – but if your feelings of anxiety are very strong, or last for a long time, it can be overwhelming.

For example…

  • You might find that you’re worrying all the time, perhaps about things that are a regular part of everyday life, or about things that aren’t likely to happen – or even worrying about worrying.
  • You might regularly experience unpleasant physical and psychological effects of anxiety, and maybe panic attacks.
  • Depending on the kind of problems you experience, you might be given a diagnosis of a specific anxiety disorder.

 

I used to suffer from anxiety really bad until quite recently, I’ve learnt how to control it & I can thank myself & for training so hard. People would say its because you’re ‘Insecure’ NO! this wasn’t the case. Of course I had a stigma about my weight but it didn’t make me insecure I still managed to be chatted up or having a boyfriend! I was far from insecure I still had confidence.

Anxiety is in your mind convincing yourself that things are worse than what they really are. I remember a few years back I was really unhappy in an old job and one morning I got dressed, left my house walked to my car and turned back and just had to get changed because I couldn’t cope with how I thought I looked & I’d wound myself up so much about it & gave myself a panic attack. This was one example of anxiety getting the better of me, this happened a lot for a long period of time until I had to take control of my thoughts and they over took my life.

 

What does being anxious feel like ?

Common physical symptoms of anxiety include: Pounding heart, sweating. Headaches, stomach upset, or dizziness.

I used to get all of the above! EVERYDAY without fail.

How not to be anxious ?

  1. Take a deep breath.
  2. Accept that you’re anxious.
  3. Realise your brain is playing tricks on you.
  4. Question your thoughts.
  5. Use a calming visualisation.
  6. Be observant without judgement.
  7. Use positive self talk.
  8. Focus on right now.

 

How to deal with your anxiety ? 

  1. Take time out.
  2. Eat well balanced meals.
  3. Limit your intake of caffeine & alcohol, which can aggravate or trigger panic attacks.
  4. Get enough sleep (Minimum 7 hours).
  5. Exercise daily to help feel good & maintain good health.
  6. Meditation.
  7. Cutting down/Stopping smoking.

 

Having anxiety isn’t anything to be ashamed about, its something we should share and feel comfortable to share with people & shouldn’t be judged by. So if you also go through this know you’re not the only one.

 

 

Enjoy,

 

LotsOfLottieLovex

 

 

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